Welcome to Down to Find Out , a column in which Nona Willis Aronowitz addresses your biggest questions about sex, dating, relationships, and all the gray areas in between. Have a question for Nona? Send it to downtofindout gmail. Thank you! And figuring out how to have sex with another girl can be doubly confusing in a society that, when it actually does educate young people about sex, is largely focused on heterosexuality. So, while there are meaningful differences when it comes to the mechanics of penises and vulvas, my advice for first-time sex is pretty much the same for all genders and genitalia: Use a barrier method when appropriate, find out what feels good to you, and communicate with your partner about your desires and boundaries.
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Author Peggy Orenstein says that when it comes to sexuality, girls today are receiving mixed messages. Girls hear that "they're supposed to be sexy, they're supposed to perform sexually for boys," Orenstein tells Fresh Air's Terry Gross, "but that their sexual pleasure is unspoken. She says that pop culture and pornography sexualize young women by creating undue pressure to look and act sexy. These pressures affect both the sexual expectations that girls put on themselves and the expectations boys project onto them. Peggy Orenstein has been chronicling the lives of girls for over 25 years. Her book Cinderella Ate My Daughter described the impact of "princess culture" on young girls.
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First-time sex can be a tricky, scary and confusing thing. For starters, people define "sex" in different ways. It can include vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, and other activities. Maybe you've already learned about sex in school, from friends, from parents, or somewhere online, and maybe you're not ready to have sex yet — which is totally normal. Maybe you have a partner you are comfortable with, and you've gone through the steps of deciding that you're ready for sex.
Thanks to thee unrealistic standards constantly portrayed in media , we've all built up this imaginary idea of what sex is supposed to be like. Some people expect a romantic night of candles and passion, while others think it will be the most pleasure they've ever felt in their whole life. But the truth is, everyone's experience is different. Sometimes it's smooth and romantic and lives up to your expectations, while other times, it's kind of terrible. But no matter how old you are or what the circumstances are, having sex for the first time can feel like a huge deal!